“The scariest thing about distance is that you don’t know whether they will miss you or forget you.”
– Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
So here’s the thing: Up until this point, I have gone through two long-distance relationships. You might say “Two isn’t a lot,” but hey, loving from afar is way more draining and challenging than you can imagine. If you’ve been in the same shoes, you understand. The bittersweet feeling of knowing someone is there for you, but isn’t actually “there.” You can’t touch them or hold them or smell their hair or taste their kiss. It’s exhausting: yearning and longing for someone. Don’t feed into any of this “your bodies are apart, but your hearts are always together” bullshit. That’s not how it works. When you love someone, you would want to be close to them, to have physical interactions, to feel them right there next to you. Intimacy is just as an important part of a relationship as feelings are.
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